I dated quite a few younger men in my 40s I just turned My first younger man experience was with an adorable year-old I met not long after I turned We were together off and on for 4 years. The President of France is married to a woman 24 years his elder, for goddsake.
These days women my age seem to take WAY better care of ourselves than men my age. The only people who gave us strange looks were usually bouncers, who always gave my ID a double take when I walked in to a bar with him.
I found that very flattering, however. Living the single life in Los Angeles, dating was very difficult. I was highly resistant to dating younger at first, but it seemed like they were the only ones who approached me when I was out and about.
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I actually wrote an essay about how much I hate it. Men tend to sexually peak at a young age, while women peak in their 30ss.
Is this some cruel trick nature played on monogamous couples who get married young? Or a boon to the still-attractive woman who may have been dumped by her husband for younger?
Because now she can, post-divorce, go have the best sex of her life with sexy, taut younger men? I know I definitely started having better sex in my 40s than anytime before. When I was in my 20s, I was truthfully a neurotic mess when it came to sex.
Ironically, despite my body being less sleek, trim and smooth than those days, I have WAY more confidence. Back then I was an idiot who insisted on sex with the lights out.
You find it fun to teach someone younger than you about how it was back in the day. One day, my first much younger boyfriend texted me: Have you ever seen the movie Say Anything? That movie was life when I was in high school.
He was born the year I graduated high school. Lots of people born in the 80s romanticize the era. They have no idea what it was really like to have a doddering old fogey president who joked about bombing the Soviet Union and diddled while people died of AIDS.
Or how to make a budget. Or how not to get arrested for drinking too much.
Many of them have no clue about universal relationship boundaries. I realized later he was keeping her as a back-up. We had many arguments about this girl, as she seemed to be completely obsessed with him.
He had a drinking problem, and that was the one insurmountable obstacle. I got a little tired of having to be the sober, responsible one who ends up talking police out of arresting my boyfriend when he went off on a bender. For every life lesson you teach them, you learn something in return.
Although it may not be what you expect. One of the funnest things about dating younger is staying up to speed with youth culture. When you hang out with younger people, you start to see things with their eyes, which is very cool. As for my family. I was a goth back in college.
I travelled across the country twice. Dating someone nearly 20 years younger barely elicited a reaction from people who know me.
But overall, they were very accepting, while also being understandably concerned about the emotional damage such relationships might cause when they ended. I know there are never any guarantees. Knowing there was an expiration date on these liaisons made them that much more intense.
This is why my last relationship ended, ultimately. This may sound strange, but it kind of turns me on to think about my exes telling stories as they age about the crazy times they had with that older woman, back in their 20s. Just like I would tell them about the wild things I did when I was their age.
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